Path to Intimacy
As an expert in intimacy, couple’s relationships, and family patterning, I offer deep, somatic, healing expression, independence/interdependence with spouses and significant others. Intimacy work takes commitment and a hunger for passion, compassion, and the ability to grow in spite of fear and doubt. The work is accelerated and evokes change on an experiential, spiritual, emotional and creative core level.
How do you surrender to another and hold boundaries in a long term relationship?
How do you weave dependence, independence, interdependence and stay committed to another?
How is intimacy a path to healing, sacredness, and self-awareness?
How do you live the messy truth, raw emotion, eroticism and an inspired life with another?
Intimacy work inspires, evokes and shifts each person to move through limiting emotional patterns that inhibit the natural flow of passion. It is a journey from the head to the heart. Moving into the moment by experiencing feelings and expression in the moment.
Many relationships at some point lose the excitement and juice that originally attracted the couples to one another. To break through limited blocks of expression, either/or thinking and denied patterns of behavior takes a deep commitment and desire to change. Intimate expression comes through challenging the fears and delusions and working through emotionally young parts that are hidden behind walls of defense. Each person will excavate the source of their authentic self and move through resistance to discover how both contributes to the “stuck” places in the relationship.
Resentments, blame, and shame can plague a long term relationship with fear, anger, and doubt. If you want to wake up and hold the intensity of sensations and feelings that come with intimacy, you need to learn to feel from your body and heart and let go of the head, analyzing, rationalizing and fixing.
“Intimate relationship is particularly powerful because anywhere in your conditioning where you are stuck or asleep an intimate partner will evoke that like nothing else in your lives. You often feel, this really must be you because nowhere else in my life, and with no one else in my life do I experience so much rage, insecurity and deficiency, aggression, pettiness and jealousy, so it must really be you because I don’t experience this anywhere else in my life. The bad news is the ego hates this that your partner can puncture the cherished image of who you think you are. The good news is at the level of your commitment to truth and awakening you need that information to see where you are stuck as much as you need the opportunity for freedom
From the point of view of your ego you like the good feelings relationship brings to you but not the bad feelings. From the point of view of your soul you need both, and both are important to fuel your journey to awakening. To include both the good and bad feelings is what makes relationship more workable so that we can hold the painful and ecstatic, allowing both types of experience to be of service in that most profound and sacred possibility of transformation.”
– Jennifer Welwood, Omega workshop on Conscious Relationship, 1997
To make this conscious path real you will:
- Identify where sacred trust was broken in the relationship
- A deep, rewarding soulful relationship where your own deeper nature is awakened
- Desire to embrace heartbreak, dark emotions and intimacy recovery
- Ready for Intimacy Training, (Moseley Method, The Shadow Side of Intimacy)
- Rebuild a sacred container, boundaries, and edges for the relationship to heal and recover
- Practice empathy, loving-kindness, and forgiveness over and over and over
Intimacy is an art
Reality happens in the moment. Intimacy happens in the moment. The moment is experienced in the now. Triggers that happen in the moment are your unhealed feelings, traumas, and memories that you bring into an intimate relationship. Intimate communication teaches a couple to lean in, engage, fully receive feeling, expressing and receiving as a creative act. Coming into the body is an emotional, spiritual, and creative process. It takes you into the unknown where you can’t analyze or fix. Building a strong emotional body that can feel compassion, passion, pain and joy without judgment, shame, freezing up, fleeing and going in defense is a life-long mastery.
Life is not a how-to manual, a technique, or a teaching. It is surrendering of your ego to your heart and soul. Intimacy is living in the creative moment, surrendering your heart to the unknown, vulnerable to express your whole truth and nothing but the truth. It is a risk to be in relationship with yourself and others. It forces you to annihilate any preconceived notions of who you are or what you should be. Feeling what you need and want, not thinking what you need and want is the way back to knowing what is real.
Your thinking mind tells you what you already know. It is propaganda. No idea, philosophy, psychology or belief system will affect the reality you are experiencing. You have to give your whole self to the moment, and feel your way into your expression when relating to another. You have die to your old beliefs, patterns, and defenses in order to know what life you are meant to live with another.
Intimacy is the art of living and loving, creating and changing, giving and receiving. Intimacy is the chaotic process of learning to love unconditionally. It is messy. You can’t just love what is easy to love. You learn to love what is not easy to love. That is the art of intimacy.
Is Path to Intimacy Right for You?
If you are interested in this transformative, intimate, personal, and intense process, click below for a phone consultation on any questions you may have.
• Couples work is done in a brief intensive format consisting of a one-day 9-5 intensive with six follow-up sessions.Schedule Your Complimentary Phone Consultation