Well, I’ve been afraid of changin’ Fleetwood Mac

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Change is never easy. When writing a memoir, journaling or simply re-examining your life, there are many difficult changes we move through.

Change for me has been epic. I have lusted after change, battled change and collapsed on change. In spite of which I was forced to change. I think it is important to understand the cycles and stages of change for your creative life and personal growth. The most important is to know where you get/got stuck in change.
For me, I got stuck from the beginning, at infancy. Trust has been a major issue for me. Learning to trust myself and others, mostly myself, is a wounded place, starting from the moment I was placed in an incubator at birth. I was not held, comforted or rocked as a newborn. Even when I was brought home I was not nurtured or touched, emotionally or physically loved. Instinctually and intuitively, I felt unloved.
Trust is my Heroine’s journey, and where my Madwoman shines a light on my healing. “Landslide” has become one of my favorite songs as a Spiritual Woman, Wounded Healer and Coming of Age Crone. “Time makes you bolder, even children get older and I’m getting older too.” Aging has made me wiser and more present in my life. My coming of age as an adolescent was stifled, fragmented and delusional. I built fantasies around my sexuality and the “idea” of love that caused me depression and self-hatred. 
Today, being a wise woman, I am also the Madwoman, reclaiming the lost stages of my life. I am a new coming of age as a Crone. A declaration to fully emerge. Through my love of healing, writing, creativity, and learning radical self-acceptance of my body, heart and soul, my entire life-story is weaving together like a tribal dance.
The chart below is the Psychosocial Stages of Erik Erikson. Erik Smith Erikson (born Erik Salomonsen; 15 June 1902 – 12 May 1994) was a German-American developmental psychologist and psychoanalyst known for his theory on the psychological development of human beings. He may be most famous for coining the phrase identity crisis. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erik_Erikson
Check out Erikson’s stages. Which one did you get stuck in? What stage/crisis do you still struggle with? This chart is a foundation for your juicy, deep, dark and daring writing. I can bet there are layers upon layers of stories, memories and changes that will evoke your writing and self-exploration.
What stage are you stuck in? What story keeps repeating over and over?



I took my love, I took it down
Climbed a mountain and I turned around
And I saw my reflection in the snow covered hills
‘Til the landslide brought it down
Oh, mirror in the sky
What is love?
Can the child within my heart rise above?
Can I sail through the changin’ ocean tides?Can I handle the seasons of my life?

Well, I’ve been afraid of changin’
‘Cause I’ve built my life around you
But time makes you bolder
Even children get older
And I’m getting older, too
Well, I’ve been afraid of changin”

Cause I’ve built my life around you
But time makes you bolder
Even children get older
And I’m getting older, too
Oh, I’m getting older, too
Marta Luzim, MS

Marta Luzim, MS

I have been working with women, families, and couples from every walk of life for over forty years. I have a practice as a Psychospiritual Therapist, with an MS in Counseling Psychology and BS in Education.

I have studied with master teachers of depth and Jungian psychology, Kabbalah, mythology, and mysticism. I am a Next Level Practitioner as a member of NICABM, studying with experts in the field of trauma. I am certified as a Kaizen creative coach, Metaphysician through Lao Russell's Science of the Cosmos training, somatic body worker, emotional intuitive, breath worker, and intimacy trainer under the guidance of Doug and Naomi Moseley.

Maureen Murdock’s Heroine’s Journey, Linda Leonard’s Meeting the Madwoman, Clarissa Estes’ Women Who Run with the Wolves, Savina Teubal’s Sarah the Priestess and Lost Civilizations of the Matriarchs, and Charlotte Kasl’s Women, Sex and Addiction have had major influences on my work with women.

I am an expert in women’s issues, family issues, trauma, abuse, addiction, and recovery. As an artist, writer, and healer I advocate/pioneer work with feminine spiritual and creative processes to evoke women’s voices, visions, and healing. As a teacher, I taught children right hemispheric and creative processes to bring passion, heart, and soul into the learning process.

My signature process, Writing Like A Madwoman™, is a life changing, creative, and emotionally charged healing program. I use story, memoir, and truth telling as the container to evoke your voice, explore trauma and healing through deep, dark and daring writing.

I have written five books: The Calling, Heart of a Woman, Little Book of Consciousness, Conscious Companion, and Cry Kali, Voices From My Soul. I had two staged productions, Breathing Under Water in 2000 and Vows of Love in 2004. In addition, I produced a docudrama Primal Urgency. I've published articles on woman's issues and creativity. I am President and founder of Give Her A Voice, Inc, a 501c3 nonprofit producing multi-media plays called The Telling, showcasing woman’s gutty, gritty stories of recovery from abuse. www.giveheravoice.org Visit her website at www.writinglikeamadwoman.com.
Marta Luzim, MS

One Response

  1. Thanks Marta. You’re wisdom is part of me as you have part of my personal journey.
    I’m so grateful for my changin…my heart’s softens and life is better.

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